Time and time again I’ve heard it and I’ve seen it. Millennials are making safe, boring decisions in life based on what they are told, rather than what they really want to do because they aren’t living for themselves.

And maybe you’re one of those people too. In fact, that was me a mere three years ago. After graduating with Honours in college, I thought I wanted to go to law school (because I had people telling me that I would be good at it and I thought that was the only thing I could do with my Criminal Justice degree) and if that didn’t work, I created a backup plan to do my Masters Degree in well, I wasn’t sure, but I just knew I had to do it.

After pulling myself out of doing the LSATs right before the test date, and rejecting going back to school (even though I really loved it), I got a job in the financial industry – and quit because to be honest, I was over it (for more reasons than one) and currently work for the local government.

I was living for my parents because they expected me to “get a good job, get married, yadda yadda yadda”.

I was living for my friends because they knew that I would be something great (in any way, shape or form).

And I was living for my “diluted expectations” – which really weren’t me because I DIDN’T KNOW WHAT I WAS LIVING FOR.

I had no dream. No passion. No “light at the end of the tunnel.”

 Nadda. Zippo. Zeeeeeeerrrrrrrrroooooo.

But in the midst of me trying to understand what I thought I wanted, I realized that I wasn’t living for me and my ‘true authentic self’. Scary right?

It was the brink of depression for me when I started to really understand that I couldn’t live my life for others.

I was young, cute, ambitious (I can go on and on if you want me too…) and I knew I was destined for something greater.

So I started to read more. Focus on my personal development by investing in myself by taking different courses. And found God (technically, He found me!) 

The whole nine yards.

And that’s when I was able to figure out that the one thing I loved about school was writing, mentoring and coaching.

*cues the light bulb turning on* I finally found my ‘it‘. 

What makes me happy. What challenges me but keeps me centred and what I was born to do. Creating a coaching business to help young and ambitious people like YOU become empowered to figure out life, while making impactful changes day by day, and writing a book (AT THE SAME TIME) that focuses on how a millennial like you can up, get out and get something with their lives .

So my advice is to you is do what it takes to get to a better space to understand that you must live for you and only you. Not anyone’s approval. Not anyone’s acceptance. If you’re in Christ, God’s has already accepted You as His daughter, adopted by the blood of Jesus. There’s nothing better than that acceptance!